thank you for letting me suck

by michelle on April 22, 2012

Recently one of the teacher trainees lingered after class to chat. Her message was this:

“Thank you for letting me suck and not making me feel bad about it. Because if I felt bad about it, it would probably push me even further away where I wouldn’t even want to try.”

We can all relate, right?

In high school I dreaded competition, or rather the idea of sucking, so much that I didn’t play sports. As an adult I have quit or avoided things I wasn’t good at.

Granted, there is some wisdom in this — go where your natural proclivity is, go where things flow easily.

But there is obvious benefit in having to work hard for something, charting improvement, or not improving and just doing it for the joy of the doing rather than for the goal of a result.

And perhaps the greatest gift is the permission we can give ourselves — to not want to try, to try and fail, to suck.

What would you do if sucking at it really bad made no difference?

I’ll go first… I would:

play music in public
write a book
plant a garden
cook without a recipe
volunteer to work with kids with developmental disabilities learning to ride horses
teach more

Your turn…….

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Patience is a hard discipline. It is not just waiting until something happens over which we have no control: the arrival of the bus, the end of the rain, the return of a friend, the resolution of a conflict. Patience is not waiting passively until someone else does something. Patience asks us to live the moment to the fullest, to be completely present to the moment, to taste the here and now, to be where we are. When we are impatient, we try to get away from where we are. We behave as if the real thing will happen tomorrow, later, and somewhere else. Let’s be patient and trust that the treasure we look for is hidden in the ground on which we stand.

~Henri Nouwen, Catholic priest

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