This week a friend gave me a piece of advice:
Make it all about you.
Meaning… indulge in things you love, make decisions based on what you need and want, give yourself permission to be a little selfish.
At first I thought, Yaaaaaa. I’m gonna make it all. about. me.
And then I got a little queasy.
It sounds great in theory — I’m going to take a bath and then a nap and then order my favorite take out, say No to the invitation I’m not interested in, and ask for what I want from the people in my life.
However… aren’t there other people to consider? Feelings? Responsibilities? What if I disappoint someone?
It’s true, there are other considerations. But my guess is that most of us don’t live in a bubble of our own world. Consider how often you make your decisions based on what someone else wants. For me, it’s more often than not.
So here’s the challenge. Choose a duration of time — a week, an day, an evening — and make it all about you. Let your loved ones know, set yourself up with super-indulgence of your favorite things, and don’t fold. Make it all about you:
Ask inwardly what you want, what you need.
Be aware of any hint of answer, even if it isn’t what you expected.
Have the courage to give that thing to yourself.
This sounds deceptively easy. It is not.
But particularly powerful in times of transition, major life stress, or low self-esteem.
Try it on and let me know.
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